Wednesday, May 30, 2012

The Last 3% Effort


      I think we all have people who come into our lives who we would like to emulate.  They are the kind of people who inspire you to want to be better, and you want to learn all that you can from them.  I could rattle off names of several women who inspire me, but one woman in particular really touched my heart and made me stop and think.  This woman is Teresa Andersen, and the best part is , I am sure she doesn't even have a clue how much her words and actions have sparked something inside of me.  

      Last month I had an A-HA moment.  This moment was ignited by talk of an entry that Teresa had written on her blog about giving an extra 3% effort to every thing you do.  These words went right to my heart.  Honestly, sometimes I feel like I am only operating on 60% effort.  I do enough to just barely get by.  And just barely getting by can work out fine for the most part, but I have come to realize how special you can make a person feel when you give just a little bit more effort.  I can be the most thoughtful person sometimes but I rarely put those thoughts into action.  I don’t like that about myself, but rather then beat myself up over what I could have or should have done, I have been inspired to give that extra 3%. 
 
"Frequently our ability to rejoice,
to use our creativity, to feel our own abilities,
uniqueness, and effectiveness- our opportunity
to celebrate- is contained in those last precious
moments of effort and thought"

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Coincidence??

      For a while now I have been pondering the thought of how personal I should get on my blog?  I've wondered this because I have found myself at times wishing I would have shared something that was near and dear to my heart, but questioning, is that appropriate to share on a public forum?  Granted, I don't even know if anyone even reads the stuff I write, but I know someday that my grand-kids will and so I want them to feel like they truly get me.  But again, how personal do you get?

      Here's where some irony comes in;  Last Saturday I brought home a book from my friends garage sale.  It's a biography on the life of Glenn Beck called "The 7 Wonders That Will Change Your Life".  I find this book ironic because the common theme I keep running into over and over is how we need to be authentic.  He says, "Ultimately, what people hunger for is authenticity - from others and from themselves.  Give it a try.  Start revealing the truth about yourself and watch whether your ostracized or embraced".

      One of the "7 Wonders" that Glenn talks about is Courage and I think it takes Courage to put your thoughts out there for others to see.  So in-addition to all of the normal day-to-day stuff I put on my blog, I want to share some of the lessons I have learned and open up my authentic side.  So, stumbling upon this book at the time that I did, coincidence?  I really don't think so.  I think it's interesting how we sometimes find answers to the questions we have at the right time.  Had I come across this book a few months ago I probably wouldn't have given much thought about it.  I feel like at times we are guided on a certain path to find the answers we seek.           

The Spring Event

I have so many wonderful pictures from the Garden Party that it's hard to pick and choose which ones to share so here are some of my favorites.   The grounds around Teresa's house were gorgeous!  Everything was decorated with such style and class.  No matter where you went on the property you would find great photo props: old vintage suitcases and a vintage telephone; vintage quilts, kites, and a bicycle; and banners everywhere.  Yep, we took pictures all day long!
For lunch all of these chairs were placed down both sides of the long table.
Fresh strawberries with a marshmallow/cream cheese dip and brown sugar.
Nicole, Teresa, Paige, Jenn, Sheila & Shannon
The Sorbet! Oh my goodness the Sorbet!! There were so many
delicious flavors to choose from. The Sorbet station was self-serve
and I think I made at least 4 trips to it :-)
A Water/Candy Station. Crystal lite packets, vintage straws and snow cone cups for the candy.


The beautiful women who put this all together!
Teresa, Ruth & Sandy

Lunch almost looked too pretty to eat!

The best class, appetizers by Sam.

And the highlight of the afternoon, Mindy Gledhill performing!  I think she is one person who sounds better live then on CD.  She is amazing!  I love all of the stories she shares about her music.
After the party ended we all started to get a little goofy and we laughed until we cried!  Mindy & her Guitarist, Spencer Harrison, were a ton of fun to hang with.
Shannon's Dad took care of dinner Saturday night and asked a woman from his Spanish branch at church to bring in Mexican food for everyone.  And it was so good!  This weekend was so awesome in more ways than one: 
  • It was awesome to get away and spend time with such wonderful friends. 
  • It was awesome to have been behind the scenes on such a fabulous event.
  • It was awesome to have met new people and get to know them.
  • It was awesome to have been so spoiled every minute of each day.
  • And it was truly awesome to have been so welcomed into the Anderson family and home! 
Thank you so much Shannon and Teresa!  Memories were made to last a lifetime!!

Monday, May 28, 2012

Dinner and Activity at the Lake

      Just a few blocks from Teresa's home is a beautiful lake inside their gated community and if we weren't spoiled enough, Teresa had a special evening planned for us.  All extended family members and close friends were invited to attend.  Dinner was simple, hot dogs over the fire, watermelon, salad and danishes for dessert.  And we even had time to take a spin on the paddle boat around the lake and chill by the fire.
       But the real treat of the night was the fun activity she had planned.  Right at dusk Teresa explained to us that she has always wanted to light lanterns like on Tangled and send them off with a wish.  Well, unfortunately, it's illegal to do that in California so she came up with the next best thing;  Floating Locus flowers.  Everyone got to choose 3 different colors of flowers, open the petals and place a tea light candle inside.  Then at dusk we lit the candles and sent them floating off into the lake with our 3 wishes.  It was so beautiful!

Spring Event Prep-Day

      These three ladies were the masterminds behind the Spring Event and they all possess such talent and vision. On the left is Teresa, Shannon's Mom. Sandy is in the middle and then Ruth. They are such lovely women and seeing them interact together made me giddy with hope that my friendships will stand the test of time too. These wonderful women are worker bees! But better than that, they did it with such an amazing attitude. Throwing an event like this I would find stressful, but not them, they were fun, happy, and so kind.
      The Friday before the party was supposed to be a work day, but I really can't say that what we did was work.  The duties we had assigned to us was to make 200 snickerdoodle cookies and assemble 180 center pieces.  Piece of cake.    
After we accomplished the tasks assigned to us, let the fun begin ...

Road Trippin' with Girlfriends

      I love road trips!  I love road trips because they allow you the time to have deep, meaningful conversations!  I love road trips because it's a good excuse to graze all day long!  I love road trips because I think it's so much fun to stop in Podunk towns, sometimes in the middle of nowhere, for gas or a bite to eat!  And now I can say that I LOVE road trips with girlfriends!!! 
      Last month I went on a road trip to California with 3 wonderful friends.  The destination:  Cathy's Valley, CA., so we could attend a Vintage Spring Sorbet Garden Party.  This event is a party that Shannon's Mom, Teresa, and her 2 girlfriends have been putting together for years, but this was the first year they made it such a large event.  Lunch was to be catered and Mindy Gledhill was performing.  It felt like I had been anticipating this event for so long and now it was finally here!  The party was to be held Saturday, April 28th and so our plan was to leave Thursday morning at 6:30 a.m.  A day or two before we actually left I started to have anxiety about being in a car for 15 hours with girlfriends.  Would we get annoyed with each other?  Would it be awkward?  Well I can honestly say NO, it was the best!  The best part of our trip down was seeing Shannon waiting outside of her mom's house with a flashlight in hand when we pulled in.   We were all so excited to be together and looking forward to the fun we were about to have.            

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Anniversary Dinner Date

      For our anniversary, Spencer took me to a very nice restaurant in Portland called Morton's Steakhouse.  This restaurant is the perfect place to celebrate any occasion because they know how to make you feel special.  When we arrived we were given our own personal menu with "Happy Anniversary, Nicole & Spencer" printed across the top.  Chef Shayne, our friend who happened to be working that night, spoiled us rotten!  In addition to going above-and-beyond with the main course, he brought out 2 strawberries that were sliced and peeled back into the shape of a rose.  They were SO cool!  And just when I thought I didn't have any more room left for anything else, he brought out a very delicious Souffle with fresh berries and whipped cream.  We were definitely spoiled!  And to my wonderful husband, Spencer, thank you for always making me feel special by treating me with such love.  I love you with all of my heart!!   XOXOXOX

Friday, May 25, 2012

"Steps of Reflection, Faith in Tomorrow"

      About 14 months ago, Spencer and I were asked to meet with one of the Members of our Stake Presidency.   At this meeting President Opdahl talked about how our Stake would like to participate in a Youth Pioneer Trek during the summer of 2012.  I instantly thought, Oh!...he's going to ask us to be a Ma & Pa, but to my utter shock he asked for our service as Trek Coordinators, which means we plan the whole thing.  That is a HUGE responsibility!  Of course we accepted and so for the past 14 months we have been living and breathing Pioneer Treks.  During this prep-time I have felt such a varied amount of emotions; excited, inspired, anxious and overwhelmed, but most of all humbled!  I have been humbled by the amount of service so many people freely give to make events like this happen.  I am humbled by the respect and trust that others have in us, even though they are older and wiser, I feel their confidence in us and I appreciate that.  During our Trek Kick-Off Fireside I gave the following talk to our Stake youth which expresses my thoughts on the up-coming Trek. 

"Steps of Reflection, Faith in Tomorrow"

      I have to admit that between the age of 12-18 I had absolutely no interest in Pioneers!  I never had a great-great grandfather cross the plains pulling a handcart with the hope of finding religious freedom, so I had never felt a personal connection to the early pioneer history so widely regarded in our church.  I had the mentality that if it didn’t apply to me, why should I care.

     But the truth of the matter is, it does apply to me.  And it applies to all of you too.  And I regret to say that for years I was oblivious to the roots that blessed me, and continue to bless me.  We all have pioneers in our family.  Every single one of us here have at least one ancestor that chose to listen to the missionaries and join the church so that their children could have the gospel in their lives.  For some of us here, those pioneers may date back to the early settlers of the church; those who sacrificed all they had because of their faith in the gospel.  For others it may have been your parents or grandparents who were introduced to the gospel, or even yet, maybe your roots in the church began with you. 

     However long your roots in the gospel have been planted, one thing that rings true for all of us is that those roots are a part of our spiritual strength. 

     The first part of our theme we entitled, “Steps of Reflection”.  We chose this phrase because we feel that it’s important to reflect on where we came from.  We need to take the time to learn about what our ancestors did and what they sacrificed for us.  Personally, and collectively. 

      It’s extremely important that we not forget what the Restoration really means and what it cost. 

      I had an opportunity a few years ago to learn about my great-grandma on my Dad’s side.  She was born and raised in Norway.  When she was 18 years old she worked for a man who was a Mormon.  The religion intrigued her and she wanted to be taught the gospel.  She asked to be baptized, but because of her parents’ disapproval the missionaries told her they would rather she had a strong testimony, strong enough to stand on her own before she be baptized.  Her family practically disowned her.  In public her siblings even refused to be seen with her. 

      My Great-Grandma belonged to a club that the church in Norway had.  In this club each member would pay a certain amount of money a month into a fund and the most active member was given the money to come to America.  Once they got to America and secured a job they would then repay the money to the club.  Despite several threats from her family that bad things would happen to her if she left, she decided it was the right thing to do and arrived in America in Feb. 1910.  She only knew just a handful of people who had traveled previously and that is all.

      It takes a lot of faith to leave something behind, even if you’re moving on to something better, but Faith helps us to have courage in pursuing our dreams.  The gospel of Jesus Christ would not be what it is today if not for the faith of the early pioneers.  But do we truly understand WHY the pioneers did what they did? 

      Just like my Great-Grandma, the Saints in a lot of cases could have stayed where they were. But they looked beyond the here and the now.  Which leads me to the second part of our theme.   “Faith in Tomorrow”

      The Pioneers movement west was for us, the future members of this church, so that we could have the gospel in our lives, and a temple to worship in.  The hardships that the Pioneers had to endure were severe.  I bet in a lot of cases the pain felt endless.  But they were determined.  They KNEW that tomorrow would be better.  “Tomorrow” might have meant days or weeks, or even months before relief came but they believed with all of their heart that that relief would come.  Many gave their lives trying. 

      By experiencing some of the hardships that the early Church pioneers had to go through, we hope that you will learn to appreciate, and value, all that they did for you.  And recognize the faith they had in order to do it.  One of my favorite quotes from the movie 17 Miracles is, “All this will be worth it if my posterity will keep the faith”. 

      It is my hope as we go on this trek that we can all begin to recognize the roots that have blessed our lives.  That our faith in the gospel will grow.  And more importantly, as we exercise our faith, we will all come to realize that we too can overcome any hardship in our life.  I leave this with you in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.  

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

12 Year Anniversary

“Choose a companion carefully and prayerfully;
and when you are married, be fiercely loyal one to
another. Priceless advice comes from a small framed
plaque I once saw in the home of an uncle and aunt.
It read, “Choose your love; love your choice.”
—President Thomas S. Monson
I was so happy when I came across this quote the other day.  Just a couple of days prior to me stumbling upon it I asked a dear friend, someone I look up to, what piece of advice she could give me on how to keep a marriage strong through all of the years, and she said two things: 

1.  Always treat your spouse as if you're still dating; and
2.  Be fiercely loyal  

Those two words, "fiercely loyal" have forever been etched into my mind!  12 years ago I married my best friend, and today he is still my best friend!  I love him with all of my heart.  I consider myself lucky to have chosen the man I did and I still, and forever will, love my choice!